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Daniel, the problem is, single college males are no saints (I have no degree, but I went to college long enough to know it wasn't the path for me, and what the guys on campus were like), and they will have sex whether they are married or not. Like the Bible says, because of all the fornication in the world, it's best for every man to have a wife, and every wife to have a husband. My husband's Messianic step dad required my husband's brother to finish school and get a career before marrying his high school sweetheart. If they would have been allowed to marry after high school, they would have married as virgins. Instead, they moved in together, and he got piercings and tatoos and joined a band while attending college several years before they both dropped out of school, and he joined the Army so he could marry her. In other words, he could care less about school because those were his dad's dreams and goals, not his, he had no clue what he wanted to do with his life or what to study. Marriage, children, and the military made him grow up and take his future seriously. Now as a mature and responsible husband, soldier, and father, the Army is paying for his med school, he's a combat nurse. As a newly enlisted troop, you better believe they struggled at first, but 3 kids later, they are doing much better than the middle son who became an engineer, is in his 30s, says he us still lonely, depressed, and looking for a wife. The guy ain't ugly and he makes good money, but he sleeps around and gets drunk because he's lonely and won't settle down.
Whoa! Now we are getting into child rearing and how to train up your children, which is an entirely different topic! I just want my sons to wait a little longer, because I know they can have children later in life. If I ever have a daughter, I won't be so concerned about whether she waits a little longer or not, until she has the means to provide some income, but I want my sons to be able to provide for as many wives and children as the Lord gives into their bosoms, and to not have the struggles I had to face with car problems, and here in Texas, AC is a must, and I have had the electricity and phone service cut off in my home. I had to pay my way through college, and that work ethic built character, and that is the kind of character I want to see in my boys. I warn my sons about Delilah. I want them to find a Ruth. When I ask my son whether the young woman he is interested in, is a Ruth or a Delilah, he always jokes that she is like DeRuthlah. I know that finding a Ruth is like finding a needle in a haystack, and if he is able to find one in college, so be it. If he finds one or two fresh out of high school, and he can earn enough to provide for them on a single income, GREAT! If he can build his career without going to college, I am all for it! If he is intent on jumping into marriage with no specialized job skills, I am going to slam on the brakes.
I was in the US Army Reserve, training at Ft Leonardwood, MO in 1989. The foul language and crude jokes, and vulgarity were off the charts. The tales the men told of their sexual conquests, made my college experience seem tame. In college I hung out with a small group of believers who were committed Christians who loved the Lord and loved one another. I found them by wearing a Christian T Shirt into the cafeteria one morning. I prayed before my meal, and when I finished praying, there was a brother in Christ sitting across from me. He introduced me to his friends and some praise music thatI had never heard before, and that had a profound impact on me. Your children will always be like those that they hang around. My older son hates the way that most of his classmates behave. He hates the fact that they get involved in underage drinking. He broke up with his girlfriend, as he saw that she was going that route. He detests some of the behavior of the young people in his church youth group, who act holy on Sunday, and act like the world, the rest of the week.
Having said all that, women are NOT ubiquitous! Indeed, some may have a checkered past, and when it comes to finding a wife, I don't think he will expect perfection. I know he would love to have his girlfriend back, if she were to turn her life around. Character is the key, and a woman of noble character, isn't chasing a man simply because she thinks he is sexy. The woman who might take a man for all his worth, in a divorce settlement, are more likely to be that shallow, and I sense some people here have experienced that in a prior marriage. There ARE women out there though, who ARE seeking God's will in finding a husband, and those are the women I want my boys to marry, and if and when my wife comes around on polygamy, I will want to marry one of them as well.