“Each man should only have two because some men are left out if some guys have too many.”
sounds vaguely familiar......
That would be a horrible reason to argue for men only having two wives! I certainly never said that, but you put that in quotes, as if that were what was said, ver batim. I am only saying that it does make it a bit frustrating in the search for the second. Yeah, I get mixed feelings about men who have two wives, going onto pro-poly forums and reaching out to women who are already on board with polygyny, and I probably will, until I have a second wife, but I put a lot of hard work into convincing people that polygamy is an acceptable practice, and I would like to see the fruit of my labor.
We had a guest speaker on Sunday, who quoted a Greek Proverb that says that "Great men plant trees that they will never sit under." If that is is true and if it is applied to polygyny, I suppose I don't want to be a great man after all.
Having said that, I have not been a defender of those who wish to add a third wife, in public forums, because unless each wife is having six children on average, you are not really putting back in, what you are taking out. We have established the fact that there is nothing wrong with generation gap marriages, so I will defend the practice of taking a third wife, if one of those wives, is a widow, since she is expected to outlive her husband by many years.
With few notable exceptions, the men here on BF, are not the dregs of society, but neither are we exactly the cream of the crop. It's all a wash. That is where the comparison to the monogamy, "each man gets a wife" idea, falls apart. Sure, if there is someone in our midst, and I won't name names, but those men aren't exactly marriage material, and we wouldn't even want that person to have one wife, much less two.
Let's face it though! If we are becoming an organization of parasites and worker bees, the worker bees among us, just might go elsewhere, and the whole ediface will collapse. I myself, have gotten worn down, going on YouTube and other discussion groups, trying to persuade the masses, that they are wrong. I have a regular job that I have to focus on. I don't get paid to debate people online. The Bible says that the laborer is worthy of his hire. I don't want to have to go shopping for a job every six months or so. That doesn't look good, when you are trying to win over someone.
I understand why people who have two wives, don't have time to do the hard work, because I don't have time for it myself. Look! There is no shortage of good husbands among us. The shortage of good husbands, is out there where the women live under the assumption that if someone like myself were to try to win them over, I am either just trying to have them as a side chick, or my marriage is in trouble, whereas if I had a second wife, that same woman would understand that neither of those two assumptions is correct.
but really, I kind of like being different haha
...er rather "available" men. 
